Works by
Matt Kailey
(aka Matthew Kailey)
(Writer)

• Our Day Will Come (2004)
  George Donner felt that he had arranged the perfect life for himself. Marrying his childhood sweetheart, fathering a bright and attractive son, and taking care of his little family in the suburbs were, he believed, the right things to do. But when he finally discovers that "the right thing isn't always the best thing," his wife is dead, his son, Martin, is middle-aged, and George himself, at seventy-two, is recuperating from his second stroke in Mountain View, a Colorado nursing home.
  
  He assumes that his life is over until his new friend Hannah, a sex-hungry widow with a memory problem and an eye for George, unwittingly introduces him to her competition--Jake Blair, a seventy-five-year-old openly gay writer on layover at Mountain View with a broken hip. Jake and George begin an affair, but when Jake finally heals and goes home, George is left behind, facing heartbreak, commitment to Mountain View by his disapproving son, and a troublesome memory of his father that haunts him as he struggles with his own sexuality.
  
  Will George ever be reunited with Jake? Our Day Will Come explores family relationships, ageism, and independence as George struggles to choose between living acceptably and living authentically.

• Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience (2005)
  Matt Kailey lived as a straight woman for the first forty-two years of his life, and then he changed. With the help of a good therapist, chest surgery, and some strong doses of testosterone, Kailey began living life as the man he’d always wanted to be. Now, in Just Add Hormones, Kailey uses humor and humility to explain his journey toward accepting himself as neither a woman nor someone born male. Kailey answers all the questions you’ve ever had about what it’s like to live as a transsexual. From the fear of public restrooms to deciding whether to "pack" his pants, he explains what the world looks like from his new male vantage point. More than a memoir, Just Add Hormones is full of advice for those who may be questioning their gender while also offering valuable insights to the family and friends of those who have started a transition. People frequently ask Kailey Are you done? In Just Add Hormones, Kailey reassures readers that being a transsexual is about more than some operation: it is a state of mind, a place between the two genders that can cause us all to consider and even laugh at our own notions of what being a man or a woman means. 

• Focus on the Fabulous: Colorado GLBT Voices (August 2007 release), Matt Kailey, ed.
  For the first time ever, Colorado's GLBT voices come together in this collection of short stories, personal essays, poetry, and experimental writing. Get to know these 33 fabulous Colorado GLBT authors as they write about life, love, and living in Colorado:
  
  Aimee Herman, Alex C. Dembicki, Alysha Wood, Angela Palermo, Barry Jay Glass, Carolee Laughton, Christopher Caldwell, Dan Stone, darona draka, Dave Brown, David Alan, Debra A. Myers, Deena Larsen, Donaciano Martinez, Donald Stikeleather, Frank Lyon, Frederick Lyle Morris, Gretchen Haley, Jerry L. Wheeler, Kimberlee A. Miller, Laura Givens, Lily Marlowe, Lisa Lusero, Melanie Stafford, Nick Sarchet, Nuclia Waste, Peter D. Clarke, Richard McComb, Shakirah C. Hemstrom, Shannon Bullock, Sunshine Dempsey, Suzanne Marie Calvin, and Tigre Haller

Videos

• Matt Kailey: A Conversation (2004) by Matthew Kailey and D. Robin Hammer; D. Robin Hammer, director
  This video portrait illuminates issues surrounding sexuality, gender, and identity in an unusually open and accessible way. Matt Kailey, a female-to-male transsexual, is a writer and workshop leader who understands gender identity as a continuum. Speaking from the perspective of his own day-to-day life, he looks at the subtle and not-so-subtle ways in which biology, psychology, and society interact in forming our understandings of who we are. His liberating message and perspectives challenge the social categories and constrictions imposed on all of us.
  
  For more information, or to purchase or rent the film, visit Fanlight Productions.

See also:

• The Best American Erotica 2002 (2002), Hanne Blank and Raven Kaldera, eds.
  See "Teenie Weenies, Inc."

• Bisexuality and Transgenderism: InterSEXions of the Others (2003), edited by Jonathan Alexander and Karen Yescavage.
  See ""Walking Through Walls: An Immodest Proposal for Transcending Sexual Orientation"

• Journal of Bisexuality (Volume 3, Number 3/4, 2003)
  See "Walking Through Walls: An Immodest Proposal for Transcending Sexual Orientation"

• From The Inside Out: Radical Gender Transformation, FTM and Beyond (2004), Morty Diamond, ed. -- Finalist 2004 Lambda Literary Award for Transgender/Bisexual Awards
  See "Learning to be Gay"

• I Do/I Don't: Queers on Marriage (2004) by Greg Wharton and Ian Philips -- Winner 2004 Lambda Literary Award for Nonfiction Anthology
  See essay, "Tale of Two Marriages"