Love in the Time of HIV: The Gay Man's Guide to Sex, Dating, and Relationships (2003) with Lisa Troshinsky -- Finalist 2003 Lambda Literary Award for GLBT Studies
"This is a useful and friendly guide to negotiating the changing rules of gay dating. Think of Love in the Time of HIV as a travel book. Mancilla and Troshinsky offer seven chapters of culturally sensitive advice for moving through a now-dark, now-bright country--where the rules and customs are constantly shifting with the uneasy terrain, and the smiles and stares of the inhabitants are to be read in turns with caution and hopeful abandon. A Baedeker for the weary and wary, Love in the Time of HIV, like all good guides, delivers on both the personal and practical levels. Stories from the road, including Mancilla's own anecdotes, keep the journey in constant motion and show a vulnerability and familiarity with the field which seronegative tour organizers would probably lack. And the many valuable resources included alone make this book worth the cover price." -- Edmund White